The Constant Pursuit of Ghosts

A: I get this question a LOT from people.

We all want to know our loved ones are with us, and it’s devastating when we feel abandoned.  But this sort of ties into my previous answers.

So imagine you’re someone’s sister/mother/grandmother/daughter/cousin in this life and you die tragically, leaving everyone bereft and heartbroken.  Everyone is calling out to you for a sign, and you can’t wait to reach out to them.

But then you get over to the Other Side and it turns out you have a loved one from another lifetime that’s in trouble.  They’re sick or they’re possessed or they’re in danger.  You have to run to take care of them.  Over There, time is meaningless, so what takes a few moments for you is five, ten, fifteen years for the people you love.

Or maybe you have to bounce back to Earth with someone else you love to help them.  Maybe you get recruited to be someone’s difficult baby.  Maybe you’re trying to reach out but you don’t know how to get through, because your signs aren’t clear enough.  They don’t see you.

I can’t explain why loved ones disappear, especially the ones some of you are looking for most.  I know it’s awful and it hurts, but because I believe in reincarnation, I really believe that once you get to the Other Side, there are SO MANY people who need you, miss you, love you, want to kiss you and be near you that it’s easy for them to get wound up in reunions and realize later that decades have passed down here.  If you can take comfort in anything, it’s that the ones you love are so loved Over There that the people who are happy to see them back Home is a line so long that it’s taking years to get through.

They still love you, but it’s also easy for them to forget the pain because they know you’re coming Home to them someday.

It’s hard for us.  We don’t have that certainty.  We just have the loss.